How do you explain to someone the effect of sexual abuse who has never experienced it?
How do you convey the damage it has caused with mere words?
How do you express the magnitude of how it's affected every facet of your life?
There's a person in my life who knows what I've experienced. I told them I was sexually abused by my father and date raped. They witnessed the physical and emotional abuse of my ex-husband. I told this person because they are my best friend...
This person said something yesterday... they said that I'm a "big girl" now, it happened years ago stop dwelling on it and forget about it.
I can understand their position as they have not experienced trauma. They have not been violated, tainted. They honestly don't know what it's like to lose your innocence, trust, protection, nurturing, to feel completely and utterly worthless...
I get that.
If I can understand, accept and appreciate that, why can't they understand WHY it's affecting me?
I'm really uncomfortable with this person now and I feel very invalidated.