tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17269777.post115388853290358246..comments2023-07-16T06:55:37.559-06:00Comments on Survivor of Rape and Incest: After so long I failedsurvivorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09956175689498041699noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17269777.post-1154461228049833782006-08-01T13:40:00.000-06:002006-08-01T13:40:00.000-06:00oh and Breeya, no apologies for comment length, us...oh and Breeya, no apologies for comment length, use as much space as ya need :)survivorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09956175689498041699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17269777.post-1154461097788412992006-08-01T13:38:00.000-06:002006-08-01T13:38:00.000-06:00BreeyaI've been thinking about what you wrote sinc...Breeya<BR/><BR/>I've been thinking about what you wrote since you commented and still am at a loss for words...<BR/><BR/>I'm very sorry for everything you've been through. I think maybe you might be better off without your boyfriend, sounds like the relationship is dragging you down. But that's just my opinion, and by no means take it to heart if you don't feel or agree with what I said. <BR/><BRsurvivorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09956175689498041699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17269777.post-1154376575975087752006-07-31T14:09:00.000-06:002006-07-31T14:09:00.000-06:00Dear Survivor,I am starting to think that maybe I ...Dear Survivor,<BR/><BR/>I am starting to think that maybe I should not make a comment about your “why can’t I say no” post. I spent, again, some time writing (I am very slow) and again it has been lost. Argh!!!! It’s so frustrating.<BR/>But I have to try again because that post was very triggering for me. I have been there far too many times.<BR/>It is a terrible to feeling being used, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17269777.post-1154360645354201132006-07-31T09:44:00.000-06:002006-07-31T09:44:00.000-06:00MIL - you always know just what to say. I swear so...MIL - you always know just what to say. I swear sometimes we're operating with one mind! (((((hugs)))))<BR/><BR/>Thanks Holly (((((hugs)))))<BR/><BR/>Breeya - so good to see you back. I was wondering and starting to worry about you. Thanks for your encouragement and wise as always... hang in there friend, sounds like you're going through a tough time as well. Remember I've always got an ear - er survivorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09956175689498041699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17269777.post-1154351883825282212006-07-31T07:18:00.000-06:002006-07-31T07:18:00.000-06:00Dear Survivor,I don’t know how this post is going ...Dear Survivor,<BR/><BR/>I don’t know how this post is going to come out. I have been reading you all this time, but I haven’t been able to bring myself to writing. <BR/>Well, actually I did write a comment when you post "why can’t I say no?", but it got lost on the cyberspace. Couldn´t get to do it again.<BR/>Now there is so much stuff to say that i don´t know where to start, or if even should.<Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17269777.post-1154334875792897992006-07-31T02:34:00.000-06:002006-07-31T02:34:00.000-06:00I go through this same thing. Sometimes in spite o...I go through this same thing. Sometimes in spite of all the advances we made we slip back. But though this is a battle lost it isn't the whole war. Sometimes the pain is just too much. Please forgive yourself and realize that you deserve to fight another day.<BR/>Peace,<BR/>CieCie Cheesemeisterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14871507564733240927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17269777.post-1154199539624938402006-07-29T12:58:00.000-06:002006-07-29T12:58:00.000-06:00Dear Survivor,You are being to hard on yourself, i...Dear Survivor,<BR/>You are being to hard on yourself, it is tough battle, we all cope very differently. Hang in my dear friend, you will see light at the end of of dark tunnel.Adminhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11147942415541337701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17269777.post-1154137513331700902006-07-28T19:45:00.000-06:002006-07-28T19:45:00.000-06:00stay strong sweetie... thinking of you. and for w...stay strong sweetie... thinking of you. and for what its worth, failure isn't even a possibility for survivors, really... I mean, how can we possibly EVER fail if we've already achieved the greatest success in the world???<BR/><BR/>We were challenged with our lives to the death, and we're still alive... as painful, draining and confusing as it is, we've achieved more in our young, tender, The Missing Linkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03146568750628340760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17269777.post-1154115149952340062006-07-28T13:32:00.000-06:002006-07-28T13:32:00.000-06:00Thanks so much for your support JIP and Wanda... (...Thanks so much for your support JIP and Wanda... ((((((((hugs)))))))survivorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09956175689498041699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17269777.post-1154053537729680522006-07-27T20:25:00.000-06:002006-07-27T20:25:00.000-06:00You didn't fail. Sometimes the only way we cope is...You didn't fail. Sometimes the only way we cope is by the "old ways" Continue to find new ways. I also am still ashamed of my last episode. It was over 3 months ago, but shame doesn't help us. You did what you knew how at the moment. sometimes we all slip up. We just try the next time for another answer. (((safe hugs))Wanda's Wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02823654163692296686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17269777.post-1153967085926626382006-07-26T20:24:00.000-06:002006-07-26T20:24:00.000-06:00you havent failed, i call it a momentary lapse of ...you havent failed, i call it a momentary lapse of reason. No one can be all things to all people at all times, and you cant be the same for yourself, dont beat yourself up over it, it is a stress relief not the best one but it still is one. There are other ways of making it stoip hurting like drawing walking refocussing computer etc etc. But dont worry im just as bad as refocussing as the next jumpinginpuddleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02701383598841540578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17269777.post-1153956565332881042006-07-26T17:29:00.000-06:002006-07-26T17:29:00.000-06:00Thanks Sacha for the encouragement. It had been mo...Thanks Sacha for the encouragement. It had been months since I self harmed, I thought I was "cured" I hoped upon all hopes that I was, the disappointment and shame, the anger with myself for lying to the people I love... I hate myself for thatsurvivorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09956175689498041699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17269777.post-1153930866048276102006-07-26T10:21:00.000-06:002006-07-26T10:21:00.000-06:00You didn't fail - you coped. It works and it was ...You didn't fail - you coped. It works and it was what you needed at the time. We don't have to be perfect. We just have to try. You tried...I can tell. You just had a slip up. Next time, with some other ideas for soothing yourself, you'll maybe last longer without burning.<BR/><BR/>It's taken a long, long time for me and sometimes, I slip up. It's ok. You'll have a chance to do better Faithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04682532324408829173noreply@blogger.com